We should stop saying that men are sex-hungry animals that would fuck anything that moves !

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 Obviously, this message is very damaging for men themselves, but it’s also damaging towards women. This message damaged me when I was younger.


I internalized that 99% of guys would want to fuck me, a lot, all of the time. I would never leave a party alone. I wouldn’t have to do any work in the courtship process. Men don’t really have types like we do, they would want anything and everyone. Any man would have a much higher sex drive than me. Etc, etc.

So when my boyfriend wasn’t in the mood, didn’t get a raging boner when I changed in front of him, if a guy at a party didn’t want to make out or have sex (which would be true for the vast, vast majority of guys, I’m not everyone’s type)... I felt disgusting, repulsive, unattractive. Because all guys want sex with all women all the time, right? If he doesn’t, it must mean you’re really ugly.

Stop.


Lot of you have pointed out how this stereotype also hurts men. This is very true and valid. It hurts both sexes, arguably it hurts men much more (sexual assault of men not getting taken seriously, performance anxiety, etc). Mine is just one angle/perspective on a really big picture about a social attitude. I’m sorry if I made it seem like the biggest issue with this is my fragile ego. I didn’t want to diminish men’s issues.


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I was groomed into prositution by my boyfriend when I was 15 and didn’t realise it

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I caught my daughter and her boyfriend having sex and I think I did a good job at *NOT* being the stereotypical, obsessed-with-my-daughter’s-vagina dad

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Im a 20 yr old virgin terrified of sex, feel gross, and don’t know what to do now?

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