Men, do NOT apologize for orgasming "too soon" during sex. You were enjoying yourself! and you still have fingers!

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 Every time I feel a guy orgasming, I feel so powerful. Then for some reason, no matter how long they actually lasted, out comes some kind of apology for how they "usually arent like this" or "sorry". An apology and guilt is literally the last thing I want to hear from a guy who just came from my actions! When im still hella riled up and fuzzy!


Its an instant turn off and kills my enjoyment of the afterglow or still ongoing sexual moment.

I know that for some reason society focuses the entire act of sex on just penis insertion into vaginas and shames men for not witholding their orgasm. This is wrong and bad.

The correct response is to immediately reach down and start rubbing the clit of who you are with if you really feel you came sooner than youd like and she didnt get off. If you came, im sure she would LOVE to hear how her pussy got you off so quick and how good she is as you do this. Not one woman is going to complain about this.


If you arent up to it in your instant post orgasmic bliss, give it 20 minutes and go again!

The stereotype of women being annoyed at men who last 1 minute comes from the fact that usually men just roll over and go to sleep and stop touching her when he orgasms, ending the whole affair and leaving her hanging.

In general, please dont enter the self-guilt trip for reaching orgasm between the thighs of your parter. Or down their throat. That IS the objective of sex, after all. Healthier attitudes will improve your sex more than berating yourself every time you cum in less than 20 minutes or some crazy number.

To the other women here saying you are disappointed when he finishes too quick, please tell me what you want to happen. Yall are missing the point.


Men are going to cum fast sometimes, fact of biology. One response is for them to immediately feel guilty, say some ashamed apology to you, and roll over.

The other option is to make it sexy and try again later. Not sure why you would prefer option A in any scenario unless you enjoy humiliation.

This post says "you dont need to apologize or express shame immediately after cumming because of your own body" not "no woman needs PIV and men should all be minutemen".


And people who specifically make mean comments at you are people you dont want to waste time with anyway. Goes for both sexes.


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