A supportive message from the female partner of a PE sufferer

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 Hey boys. I just wanted to take a second to let you know that your struggle isn’t the end of your chance to make someone very happy... and that not all women will leave you because of it.


My bf struggles GREATLY with this and it does not in any way affect how I feel about him. He’s a wonderful partner; so much fun and so interesting and sweet. I wish he wasn’t so hard on himself about this topic! But I can see the anxiety, frustration, self esteem issues, and fear that he’s not satisfying me, despite my communicating how wonderful I think he is and how much fun I have in his bed.


And as a girl who has the opposite problem (anorgasmia)... his support and acceptance formy problem (something that has made me feel very unlovable in the past) is priceless.


Our sex isn’t the stuff that movies and porn vids are made of. But we have so much FUN and we’ve found a lot of satisfaction in making sex more of an adventure than an attempt to “get it right”.... We laugh. We enjoy each others’ bodies. We kiss and massage each other and have a LOT of passion. Sex isn’t a pass/fail. It’s play time, time to connect, and being vulnerable and supported by someone who cares about you.


Anyway. Thanks for coming to my TED talk. Hang in there, fellas.



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